Despite all your endeavors to stay off a break up and make up again with your ex, you might be in reality precipitating the crisis. You could well be stifling the state of affairs even further rather than winning back your ex's heart.
Are you committing any of these ten breakup blunders?
The first is when you tell your ex lover the tremendous error he or she is making by calling it quits. This does not dissuade them to stop the breakup instead they start thinking what a bad decision it was to to take you on to begin with.
Ringing too soon after the break up:
Your ex-lover has broken up with you and this should make it clear that they need some space at the moment and the very last thing they wish is to hear from you.
You have a few more drinks than normal, and you let your heart rule over your head, you dial your ex lovers' number simply wanting to talk.
Sending mailbox full of e mails or innumerable messages on voice mail:
This truly won't help your situation and will probably just make affairs worse.
Showing your feelings of being lost:
Desperate and low with your lost lover since the time both of you broke up. You are in all probability seeking to tickle your lost lover's sympathy nerves, but actually you are getting to be very dominating and desperate to your ex. This actually falls under the category of manipulative behaviors, and however unplanned, it will deliver a real sledge hammer blow to the relationship.
Discussing the breakup:
Digging up bad incidents from the past where there were crucial conflicts or fights. This would sure enough grab your ex's attention and might make them communicate but is this the best way to pass valuable quality time? This kind of action is kind of juvenile and would never get you anywhere, so you are stuck from where you started.
Affirming your never-ending love through repeated assertions:
Even if you think that your ex-lover doesn't understand how much you genuinely love them, obviously that is not the problem right now or they would not have gone. This is the right time to view the position in a wholly new light and analyze the past to find what exactly went bad instead than banking on the force of your love to help you tide over the situation.
Apologizing over and over and over again:
Perhaps you did something dreadfully bad like not keeping a promise or two timing. Pleading for a pardon is probably justified but not very many know the art of seeking a pardon. You also don't want to make the slip up of apologizing too soon. In case you believe you have not done anything which involves you saying sorry, then you are being unreasonable with yourself as you are making serious compromises here and that is not a bold trait in one's character.
Trying to make your ex-partner jealous:
This could be a short-term and workable strategy as most people like to have individual rights over their lovers but this can never give you any clue to the break up and help you resolve the crisis in any way. If all you are depending on is tricky tactics to try and win your ex back you will end up with a somewhat twisted relationship that will be even tougher to keep going for the long term.
Begging with them to help you come back:
I'll let you in on a little secret here. Those people who are emotionally secure would never need someone so urgently that they would sacrifice their self respect to try and get them back by begging. Now that you know what the common mistakes individuals make trying to win over their ex back, you could spend some time in recapitulating as to the reasons why the relationship turned sour, how to alter things and then plan out a more intelligent strategy to get back your ex lover.
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